Sandra Manning and Jayne Benge became Grieving Overwhelmed Widows Negotiating Stuff....within months of each other in 2014, and together they used a shared love of humour to help them with those early negotiations. The benefits were undeniable...leading them to form the concept of GOWNS which...at its heart...has the use of laughter and humour as a therapeutic aid in grief.
Losing a partner or spouse is about as life changing as it gets...something which Sandra and Jayne had to experience for themselves to fully understand the fullness of that statement.
Death and humour may not seem to be natural bedfellows...and for some? Quite possibly inconceivable, which is why we ask people considering joining us at GOWNS to take a look at the 'about you' page before deciding whether the use of laughter and humour as a therapy in grief is right for you.
It is said that 'Laughter is the best medicine' and through our research we have found scientific evidence to show that laughter :
Is an effective stress reliever - Muscles relax for up to 45 minutes after a good giggle.
Boosts the immune system - As stress hormones decrease...the production of infection fighting anti-bodies and immune cells increase, protecting our bodies against illness...a huge benefit as GOWNS often suffer compromise to their immunity as a result of their loss and grief.
Releases endorphins - A natural 'feel good' chemical which can even act as a temporary form of pain relief, and promotes a sense of well-being.
Increases blood flow - Blood vessels perform more efficiently, increasing blood flow, a real advantage in the prevention of heart disease and cardio-vascular problems.
Burns calories! - Ok...it may not be a substitute for the gym...but laughing for 10-15 minutes per day can burn up to 40 calories each time.
GOWNS will soon be offering workshops on how to access the many benefits of using laughter during the process of grieving. Regular updates will be provided on the notice board.
To post in our interactive forum simple register and log-in...it's completely free to join.
Members can sign up to our smiles board feature too...posting pictures and sharing their experiences with other GOWNS, and they can also join our closed Facebook page 'gownsgroup'. Check out the 'about us' page to find out more.
GOWNS understand that :
'If you can learn to laugh again, so can you learn to live again'
We are getting new members daily on our Facebook page gownsgroup....so why not join the group and get to know our members better...there is always somebody active on there to chat with.
Sandra is also looking for members who would like to help her research a project which deals with the many ways in which our members have negotiated their losses.
If you would like to participate please register here...and state your interest.
We are here to chat and support fellow GOWNS on any subject....you can use the forum on here or pop over to our Facebook page for instant responses.
Take Care Out There
Jayne n San xxxx
“I remember the title of my first post as though I had written it yesterday ‘knock…knock…don’t really want to come in’. I felt like a child who had turned up to a party in shoes several sizes too big carrying a present that would turn out to be a turd in gift wrap…all of which would render me a permanent out cast from the group I was hoping to join”
Members comment..."Jayne and Sandra are nutters, but lovely" !
Members comment..."You both put so much energy into GOWNS...keep going" !!
Members comment..."You give support and encouragement by bringing people together to help each other".
Members comment..." You two are mad....but I like mad"
Great comments from our members...keep smiling everyone, you're doing great !!
"We did it Bud...We flippin did it" ... here we go...GOWNS are on the move !